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What do people do when they split up?

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How people recover from heart breaks

Many of us have witnessed break-ups in their life or in the life of their closed ones. Break-up always brings unhappiness uneasiness followed by an initial stage of shock and defeat. Even if some of us put forward the tag: “No right, no wrong, no rules for me, I’m free…”, break-ups always bring a sense of being replaced, a sense of denial, shock, anger, sadness, depression, low self-esteem. We do a lot of crazy stuff just to elevate our self-esteem and just to feel good about ourselves again. Men and Women Suffer differently but enduring post-break up syndrome is more or less same for them.

WOMEN:

Initially, we experience the state of shock, then we go into the phase of loner and depression stricken and then we come to the stage of acceptance and then we move on. Different women tend to behave differently during these stages.

Followings can give us a brief description:

  1. The Mourners: Girls surely will cry over and over with all the sad romantic songs stuffed in our play-lists. We keep thinking about all the good times we spent with our ex (ouch). We naturally go into the phase of hibernation. We start to eat less or to overeat, start to sleep more. Once this phase is over…
    Girls, stay indoor, to cope up with their state of shock and defeat and to eradicate the feeling of being rejected.

    Girls, stay indoor, to cope up with their state of shock and defeat and to eradicate the feeling of being rejected.

  2. The makeover-ist: We try to look different, we get a new hair cut, or go for piercing or an overnight change of wardrobe.
    Girls go through a pampering phase to boast up self esteem.

    Girls go through a pampering phase to boast up self esteem.

  3. Party Animals: We start to go out with girl’s gang. And spend more time with them. We go for hangouts, for a movie, or visit discos, or we give ourselves retail therapy. But whenever we see couples out there, we feel a jerk of hidden pain.
    Girls love to spend times with friends as her girls’ gang give her the impression that she is still important to other people.

    Girls love to spend times with friends as her girls’ gang give her the impression that she is still important to other people.

  4. The Devdasis: while we are trying to move on; we sometimes let out our pent up pains to our close friends through all the crazy ugly cries.(sometimes after heavy drinking).This stage have crucial relevance, as some girls stuck here for ever, they just can’t move on further with their life.
  5. The Back in the Game Babes: Then after some more days we accept the fact, and forgive or start to give less importance to our past and took our final step towards the last stage of moving on with sharpening our skills of flirting with opposite sex.
    Girls eventually start to date someone else, as these casual dating gives them confidence about themselves.

    Girls eventually start to date someone else, as these casual dating gives them confidence about themselves.

  6. The Winners: We finally step into the final stage of moving on with the strong feeling of self-confidence, with no more regrets, no more hard feelings.
    Girls, eventually rediscover her,and move on with her life, with no regrets, no hard feelings in her mind.

    Girls, eventually rediscover her,and move on with her life, with no regrets, no hard feelings in her mind.

Now, MEN:

  1. The Bear Brothers: Like girls, after break-up Men do a lot of hibernation, break-ups are hard on them too, even if they don’t admit. They spend a lot time, alone, with video games, or watching TV, spend a lot time with their guitars. Life is hard for the guy who is spending the post-break-up period. The time duration for this period varies form person to person.
    Guys need this alone time, to get over from his state of shock and trauma.

    Guys need this alone time, to get over from his state of shock and trauma.

  2. The drunken Lad: They start their getting over the process with a drunken phase, they call out their buddies, or visit some friend’s place, and drink till he forgets everything or pukes.
    Some guys choose to be with his bros and be an alcoholic as a recovering step from his trauma.

    Some guys choose to be with his bros and be an alcoholic as a recovering step from his trauma.

  3. The Tourists: Some guys, who love to see new places, love to interact with new people or only love to drive their bike or car. They choose to go for a long drive or on a vacation with their Biker’s gang or gang of bro’s.
  4. The Thinkers: This times they think about other exes or other girls who were involved in his life, he will call them, just to distract his mind from your thoughts.
    Along the process of rediscovering his happiness, a guy often thinks about his other exes.

    Along the process of rediscovering his happiness, a guy often thinks about his other exes.

  5. The pornographists: Some of them start to watch more porn than ever, they enter this phase to cut down their frustration and pent up anger.
  6. The stalkers: This is the most crucial period for men, as some of them stuck here for eternity, they start to stalk their ex on different social media, and when they see that the girl is moving on with her life they feel jealous and curse their ex for not having any post-break-up syndrome.
    Some guys stalk their social media profile

    Some guys stalk their social media profile

  7. The Builders: To release the emotional pressure, some guys starts to work out, they hit the gym regularly and thus with sweat they release their emotional stress.
    Some guys go for a heavy work out regime, to release their emotional stress with sweat.

    Some guys go for a heavy work out regime, to release their emotional stress with sweat.

  8. The Movers: eventually they stops thinking about you all the time, and start to look out for new prospective partners, they start all those casual dating and stuffs, and just move on.

After all, it’s out of sight and out of mind.

I am what you can say a girl in hurry always, a book worm, a diehard Coldplay fan. And always hold a positive attitude in life. I believe if we don’t challenge ourselves we can never be better version of us. Love to be around people and always be there when my closest persons need me. Talk to every body but I have my circle where I actually open up.

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An Introvert’s Guide To Valentine’s Week – Enjoy Singleton

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An Introvert’s Guide To Valentine’s Week - Enjoy Single

Do you know what’s harder than being single on Valentine’s Day? Being a single introvert. You’re not alone; you are ALONE alone.

Well, let me tell you all, in this context you’re not alone. Here is a to-do list that shall get your introverted self through the valentines week. You might be thinking, why was this not suggested early? Well better late than never.

1. Rose Day

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Well the optimists are going to tell you to plant trees, but we all know what we are going to do, we aren’t going to plant trees instead we’re going to go to the botanical garden, get a rose plant for ourselves and grow the roses that we want in our lives all throughout the year, because we know the ones that would be given to the partners wouldn’t last for reasons not mentioned *wink-wink*

2. Propose Day

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Optimists are gonna tell you not to feel bad about not being asked to stay in someone’s life forever, there is more to life than that. Yes, there is, we are going to sit comfortably at our homes in our sweatpants and go gaga over “proposals-gone-wrong “ videos all night and be thankful what you didn’t have to be a part of.

3. Chocolate Day

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Your friends might try to cheer you up by telling you not to eat chocolate, it would harm your health, but what we are going to do is put some old pop cult music on and get our inner Gordon Ramsays out and BAKE, chocolates, cakes, cookies, everything that lasts. Excuse me? They’re not for other people; they’re for you, you deserve them after a day worth of cringe from the cuddle-junction you have been the third wheel for.

4. Teddy Day

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Well, we can’t decide if that’s a day where you give out teddy to weirdly overaged people who are immature at heart or just a day to misguide our children by giving them an impression that things don’t change when you grow up. On this day your introvert self shall buy a 10 ft. of fabric and a pot load of cotton, cut the fabric into half of the same shape sew it together, leave a small hole, fill it with cotton. Here you go, you made yourself a giant plush toy that isn’t demanding, doesn’t talk, just listens and is amazing to cuddle around with; above all will never leave you.

5. Promise Day

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Here we aren’t doing anything because this day is irrelevant. Promises are meant to be broken, and we do that on an everyday basis. Recall the number of plans you promised to go for but cancelled. Also, we lie in “ truth or dare” there is no way anybody would keep their promises. Plus, we don’t need a day to be honest, because this is our everyday.

6. Hug Day

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The worst of all days is this one, especially for the people who absolutely hate skin shipping, I feel you guys. Everywhere you go, people are hugging each other, and their sweaty-smelly bodies come in contact with each other. You stay home and be happy, now you’ll be the last one to get Coronavirus, and all these dolls would cry.

7. Kiss Day

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Hi vegetarians! Where are you? Welcome to the day you get deceived and half of you “dharm-bhrasht “ your way through the day unknowingly sorry to break it to you like this, but it’s the truth. Also, it’s the day when you find out the oral hygiene of a person without them having to tell you so if that’s a journey you’re willing to go through, by all means, be the world’s guest. Or sit at home read your favourite book, floss your mouth, look at your white teeth and feel sorry for people who ended up with the kind mentioned above.

8. VALENTINES DAY

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Don’t go out, don’t, just don’t. You want to see an episode of the 50 shades you might as well Netflix; you don’t have to go out for a version of 50 shades -desi. STAY IN, put on a romantic movie where either the girl or the boy dies, make yourself a hot water bath, light yourself a scented candle and get yourself through the day of the LOVERS LIKE A BAWSS.

You can thank me later all you single introverts, but for people who celebrate this week/day…Have fun!

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5 Best Hotels To Take Your Partner On Valentine’s Day In India

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5 Best Hotels To Visit This Valentine's Day In India

Valentine’s day is just a few hours away, and it’s time to decide where to take your loved one to make them feel special. Paint this special day with hues of love and all the romantic things, both for yourself and your special one. You have a full week of special days like chocolate day, promise day, rose day, teddy day, which ultimately leads up to our fabulous Valentine’s day. Markets are filled with unique items like greeting cards, gifts, balloons and chocolates, so why not give it an extra special touch by taking your partner to a perfect restaurant for an extra special date?

Here’s the list of best restaurants in the top 5 metropolitan cities in India: Delhi, Kolkata, Bangalore, Mumbai and Chennai.

1) Hilton Garden Inn, Saket, Delhi

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Valentine’s day celebration here is filled with lots of couple activities and an array of delicious food. It’s time to pamper your loved one with cocktails, live music, and delightful gourmet presentations at India Grill, one of the capital’s beloved spots for Indian cravings. The intimate interiors and the perfect ambience created by the mild romantic music in the background will serve as an ideal boost for the date you two deserve.

Price: Dinner buffet starts at INR 3999 per couple all-inclusive at India Grill. Special valentine offer includes 4 beers along with one appetiser at just INR 777 per person inclusive at High Spirits.

2) Souk, Taj Bengal, Kolkata

Designed to impress and dazzle, if you choose this stunning fine dining restaurant this Valentine’s day, then you are sure to enjoy a luxurious date with your partner. This is nothing short of sophistication, and exoticness all rolled into one.

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Where: Taj Bengal, Belvedere Road, Alipore, Kolkata
Timings: 07:00 PM to 11:45 PM
Cost for 2: Rs. 3500

3) Blue Bar, Bengaluru

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Nothing feels more special than a table for two exclusively set for you and your partner in a unique manner. This experience will be definitely tailor-made for you and having dinner at one of the best hotel properties with a swift touch of authentic Vietnamese food will make it even more special and romantic. A lavish candlelight dinner in a 5-star hotel with some champagne is sure to make this Valentine’s day absolutely memorable for both of you.

Cost for 2: Rs. 4800

4) The Peshwa Pavilion, Mumbai

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The relaxed and laid black feel, from the ground floor at the lobby to the glass ceiling, will make your Valentine’s day with your partner even more romantic. The restaurant serves the country’s finest and most elaborate breakfast, lunch and dinner buffets, which portrays the hotel’s expertise in Indian, Asian and inventive international cuisine.

Cost for two: Rs.5000
Address: Andheri East, Mumbai

5) Kefi – Taj Club House, Chennai

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One of the most romantic rooftop restaurants in Chennai, Kefi is probably the best place to take your partner to if you are situated in Chennai. The restaurant specialises in the Mediterranean, Lebanese, Moroccan, Spanish cuisine, which makes it a restaurant to definitely give a try.

Cost for two: Rs. 3000 (approx.)

Where do you think you will take your loved one to make your Valentine’s day extra special?

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Valentine’s Week Celebration In Kolkata

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Kolkata Valentine's Celebration 2020

As mid-February, approaches with the dying coldness of winter and the rejuvenating hints of emerging spring, the sparks of warmth, love, and passion are rekindled. It is the month of love — February 14th, Valentine’s Day is a day away. However, we all know that valentine’s day is not just a day celebration; it’s a week-long celebration of love —Valentine’s week—ultimately culminating into the much-awaited climax.

Kolkata’s Valentine’s celebration

Although in the City of Joy, Kolkata, the romantic mood has already set in from the time of Saraswati Puja, widely regarded as the “Bengali Valentine’s Day”. This pre-Valentine’s day was celebrated by fervent young couples dressed in traditional sarees and Punjabis crowding the landmarks of the love of the city. Many instances were reported where the couples had to wait in queues before they could enter the much-coveted premises of Rabindra Sarovar, and the grounds of the Victoria Memorial overflowing with people. Now as Valentine’s day is not that far, Kolkata is adorned with hues of love with decorations, offers, and events lined up.

The malls of the metropolis are stunningly decked up with red heart-shaped streamers, roses, balloons, fairy-lights, bathing the atmosphere in an ethereal glow. Jewellery shops provide special discounts. Famous hotels, restaurants and food chains like Radisson, Barbeque Nation, The Westin, Marriott are hosting live-band performances, DJ nights, candle-light dinners, banquets, valentine’s special buffet.

Fun activities like a chocolate workshop at Central Park on Chocolate Day, photography shoot at Eco Park on Rose Day, Valentine’s Day Cruise on River Ganges were definite eye-catchers.

The speciality of Kolkata lies in the fact that all the fun is not restricted to couples only. There is something or other for everyone, beyond the barriers of age group and relationship status.

Oxford Bookstore, Park Street, has organised an event “To All, With Love” where children would be telling stories, reciting poems of love and compassion, followed by games and puzzles. The highlight of the event is a highly fascinating one. The event, called “Be My Valentine”, a letter-writing contest where the participants pen down a letter to their favourite authors to win a chance to be gifted with a signed copy of the author’s book caught the attention of many.

Sky Turf, Kolkata, has another exquisitely unique event lined up for the season of love, concentrating on ‘self-love’ rather than romantic love. “Love is in the Air” organised by them is an open-air Zumba and salsa evening, solely for self-pampering wellness workout session accompanied by extravagant music and snacks.

Amidst the glittering malls, restaurants, bars, hotels, and specialised shops, the small locals’ stores, inconspicuous handmade goods markets also experience a rise in sales during this time. The street hawkers selling roses, balloons, hand-stitched teddies, and candies managed to get a better profit due to increased demands.

NGOs in Kolkata have taken the initiative to spread the awareness of buying local handmade items to mark the festival of love rather than going for elaborate, expensive shops. By doing this, one can truly make Valentine’s day unique and special, filling love and joy in the hearts of the needy, apart from their own.

Celebrate the feelings of love and togetherness this season and make the moments remarkable by spending time with the ones you love.

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