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Ways To Find Out Manipulative Traits In A Person!

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If you go by the dictionary meaning of the word “Manipulate”, you would simply find -one who controls or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means especially to one’s own advantage on others. But, the practical meaning of manipulation is a bit manipulative itself.

The art of manipulation is not everybody’s shot of glass. Only the tricky ones know how to use people for self-purpose and fulfilment.

Here’s how you shall know the most common traits of recognising manipulative people:

#1: Might lack confidence, but never shows

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Yes, you might not believe it but it’s absolutely true! For example-You and your friend are classmates. She wants to make an impression on the teacher although she is not a good student at all. Supposedly, one day, the teacher asks her a question regarding any topic. Here, you can watch her, she herself knows that she has no answer to this question but won’t ever show to the teacher. Instead, what she does, replies him with unlimited wrong answers until the teachers stop her. Her expression will be normal, a witty smile on her face but it’s one of the easiest ways to find out whether the person with you is among them.

#2: Never talks to the point, keeps moving around

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Since they want to befool you, they will never give you assurance for what you ask. They have a tendency to say ‘Oh! Don’t worry about it.I will borrow this for you. ‘But, the day never comes. They won’t directly say you –NO, no to the point talk and give you a false hope instead.

#3: False appreciations

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This is the best way they apply to others every time. You could easily notice this, they do this repeatedly. For example-Your friend wants to borrow a dress from you to wear it in a special function, So, she will start praising you even for any damn small activity that needs no appreciation! And, to your surprise, if you recall the change in her, you would find this false appreciation is taking place just a week before the function.

#4: Never take stand for their friends

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In your difficult times, they won’t stand beside you. There might be people back biting you. You would find that your manipulative friend is also friends with them. And to your astonishment, she will be equally involved with them in this act. Since she needs to use them too and she finds them more useful than you. Definitely, according to her unfair mind, she will choose their friendship over yours. Also, she won’t support you in any new activity, will always have one or the other excuse ready for not doing it.

#5: Influencing through Facts

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For Example: Lying. Excuse making. Double faced. Blaming the victim for causing their own victimisation. Misinterpreting the truth. Planned disclosure or withholding of key information. Exaggeration. Understatement. The one-sided bias of issue.

#6: Negative Humour Designed to Poke at Your Weaknesses and Disempower You

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Some manipulators like to make critical remarks, often disguised as humour or sarcasm, to make you seem inferior and less secure. Examples can include any variety of comments ranging from your appearance to your background and credentials, to the fact that you walked in ten minutes late in class, you eat slowly. By making you look bad, and getting you to feel bad, in front of others the manipulator hopes to impose psychological superiority over you.

#7: Consistently Judge and Criticise You to Make You Feel wrong

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Their basic mindset is to tarnish your image in others’ eyes. Distinct from the previous behaviour where negative humour is used as a cover, here the manipulator outright picks on you. By constantly ridiculing, and dismissing you, she or he keeps you off-balance and maintains her superiority. The aggressor deliberately fosters the impression that there’s always something wrong with you, and that no matter how hard you try, you are inadequate and will never be good enough. Significantly, the manipulator focuses on the negative without providing genuine and constructive solutions or offering meaningful ways to help.

#8: The Silent Treatment

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By deliberately not responding to your reasonable calls, text messages, emails, or other inquiries, the manipulator presumes power by making you wait and intends to place doubt and uncertainty in your mind. The silent treatment is a head game where silence is used as a form of leverage.

#9: Zero acceptance for any wrongdoing

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Although they know how they tried their level best to destruct you yet they will not be ready to accept their faults and mistakes. Instead, they will start bitching you. You try any tactic on them to ask for a sorry and correct them too but it will be of no use.

Observe the people that surround you and don’t let yourself be victimised.

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Victoria’s Secret’s Fallen Angels: Is VS Collective Little Too Late?

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After years of selling misogynistic fantasies masked as insecurity for women worldwide, Victoria’s Secret (VS), the lingerie and personal care mammoth, has come upon a business-altering decision. Everyone’s aesthetic and sexual fantasy – the VS Angels have fallen.

After multiple accusations of sexual assault, overt body shaming, and transphobia, their refusal to take action against high-profile executives guilty of inappropriate behaviour has led to its downfall. 2018 was possibly the worst year for the company as more body positive and inclusive brands like Aerie, Lively, and Savage X Fenty rose.

The mystical barbie-doll VS Angels, extravagantly clad in wings and bejewelled lingerie, had more or less remained the same in the last three decades since VS started their fashion shows. Models bearing bodies that ‘please’ the male gaze, just-enough-plump and just-enough-toned, were no longer a thing of beauty standards to the common woman. After all, feminists remind us repeatedly that autonomy over lingerie remains with the person who wants to wear it rather than cishet men.

There was a time when lacy push-ups and the thick underwear band labelled PINK was found in the boudoir drawer of every female teenager and adult alike. No one would be caught dead wearing something else. But in a mere decade, the tables have turned as no one would dare step inside the walls of the magnum opus of male sexual fantasy. It’s safe to say that VS brought this tragedy upon itself with its sluggish attitude toward the changing social norms of body positivity and culture inclusivity.

But recently, VS announced a defining move – one which may have come a little too late but alas, it came. Gone were the glamorous, airbrushed, and pushed-up fantasies of the Angels. Instead came in the Victoria’s Secret Collective. This high-profile seven-member board is a chance for VS to redeem its reputation and right its past wrongs. The septet consists of the pink-haired member of the American National Women’s Soccer team, Megan Rapinoe, Actor, entrepreneur, and activist Priyanka Chopra Jonas, inclusivity activist and model Paloma Elsesser, transgender model-actor Valentina Sampaio, Sino-American world champion skier Eileen Gu, model and South Sudanese-Australian model Adut Akech, and English photographer and podcast host Amanda de Cadanet.

This board is a shot at inclusivity and is reflective of real-life women as the members hail from different cultures, are from different age groups, and in some way or another, are more relatable to the common woman. This diverse set of ambassadors will spearhead this new campaign. They will be alternatively seen as an essential part of VS’s revamped brand image, including their advertisements and social media. VS’s new move is indeed a step toward becoming more like their well-off competitors, who are idealistically anti-Victoria’s Secret.

What’s notable is that this decision of VS is not just superficial to woo their consumer base but is one aimed at its very corporate structure. Billionaire Leslie Wexner, the founder of VS’s parent company L Brands, and Ed Razek, a top executive of the said company, will not be a part of the revamped identity of the lingerie giant. Razek and Wexner have been accused multiple times of inappropriate conduct, sexual advances and remarks, and exploitation of models.

VS has made it clear that the two will not be associated with VS anymore. The company will split from L Brands and subsequently from the toiletry giant Bath & Body Works to become an independent entity. VS will now have top-tier decisions taken by more women executives as Martha Pease, the new Chief Marketing Officer, heads the Collective and plans on having an all-women committee.

A complete upheaval of the VS stores will see the signature Angels’ posters stripped off of their walls, TVs, websites, and social media. Mannequins and models will exhibit a diverse range of bodies and products.

In an interview with The New York Times, Martin Waters, a former executive of VS international, said, “When the world was changing, we were too slow to respond. We needed to stop being about what men want and to be about what women want.”

In a recent attempt to foreshadow the company’s announcement of becoming “what women want”, VS launched a Mothers’ Day campaign. Displaying pregnant women as their models was a first for the company. Apparently, for VS, motherhood was not sexy enough till now.

The VS collective board will promote the upcoming product releases such as maternity wear along with the same old thongs and lacy bras. Other TBA products will see a collaboration between Chopra Jonas and Rapinoe.

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5 Healthy Smoothies You Need To Try This Summer!

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Summers are officially here and it’s really important to stay hydrated to keep going in this scorching weather. You can use a gamut of seasonal fruits to make smoothies. Smoothie is a fresh fruit pureed with milk, yoghurt, or ice cream to make a thick, smooth drink. 

Choose from blueberry, mango, peanut butter oatmeal, mint chocolate chip, pineapple, or any other fruit of your choice, and enjoy a nutritious and tasty smoothie in the comfort of your own home. Try these refreshing healthy smoothies to replenish and refresh your body. 

Here is a list of healthy smoothies to try this summer:

Blueberry Smoothie

Blueberry Smoothie is a simple and succulent way to begin your morning! Yoghurt, frozen blueberries, and banana are blended into a frosty drink to make this rich and refreshing blueberry smoothie. The ingredients used in this smoothie are both tasty and nutritious

 Prep time: 10 minutes

Servings: 1

Ingredients:

  • ½ cup frozen blueberries
  • ½ cup frozen bananas
  • ½ cup almond milk
  • ½ cup vanilla Greek yoghurt
  • ½ cup ice cubes

Mango Smoothie

What are summers if they aren’t brimming with mangoes? Make this delicious mango smoothie for an instant energy boost! Frozen banana, diced mangoes, and yoghurt are all good to have on hand. In a blender, mix all of the ingredients and blend until it’s smooth. It’s as easy as that!

 Prep time: 5 minutes

Servings: 1

Ingredients: 

  • 2 cups frozen or fresh diced mango 
  • 1 cup frozen banana 
  • ½ cup milk
  • ½ cup yoghurt
  • ½ cup of ice cubes

Peanut Butter Oatmeal Smoothie

This recipe for Peanut butter Oatmeal Smoothie is packed with frozen bananas, creamy peanut butter, yoghurt, oats, and honey. It only takes a few minutes to prepare this thick and creamy drink; is sure to keep you full.

Prep time: 5 minutes

Servings: 1

Ingredients: 

  • 3 tablespoons peanut butter
  • 3 frozen bananas
  • ¼cup +1 tablespoon of Greek yoghurt
  • ½ cup milk
  • ½ cup oats
  • 2 tablespoons maple syrup or honey

 Mint Chocolate Chip Smoothie

Whip up this beautiful blend of soothing mint chocolate chip smoothie recipe for an instant energy boost! Add spinach, avocado, frozen banana, milk, and fresh mint leaves to your blender and blend until it’s smooth. Garnish with fresh mint leaves and chocolate chips.

Prep time: 10 minutes

Servings: 1

Ingredients: 

  • 1 frozen banana
  • 1 cup spinach
  • ¼ small sized avocado
  • 1 ½ cups milk
  • 25-30 mint leaves
  • 1 tablespoon chocolate chips
  • ½ cup crushed ice

 Pineapple Smoothie

This pineapple smoothie is a tropical mixture. Combine your pineapple, banana, and Greek yoghurt in a blender and blend until smooth and fluffy. Serve and enjoy this quick, nutritious, and refreshing drink!

Prep time: 5 minutes

Servings: 1

Ingredients: 

  • ½ cup fresh diced pineapple
  • ½ sliced banana
  • ½ cup vanilla Greek yoghurt
  • 1 cup crushed ice

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Skin Care Tips To Survive Summers In India

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The summer heat in India can be harsh on your skin if you don’t take proper care of it. The blistering heat, dust, and pollution take away the natural shine and, in some cases, invite infections. To avoid all of these annoyances and to keep your skin glowing as it did before, try these summer skincare tips:

Clothing

Tight clothing during hot weather will irritate the skin and make sweaty areas of the body itch even more. To combat the heat, cotton and lighter fabrics are vital. Try wearing breathable fabrics.

Diet

Applying creams is not enough; you need to enrich your skin properly to keep it glowing. Juicy fruits and vegetables should be consumed in large quantities as they are high in nutrients and antioxidants that protect your skin from the sun’s harmful rays. Try consuming cooling or seasonal fruits and vegetables.

Exercise

Exercise increases blood flow that ensures that oxygen reaches the skin cells. Any tissue damage (skin burn, etc) is repaired by the body.

Exfoliation

It is a process that helps in the removal of dead skin cells from the surface of the skin. Exfoliate your skin regularly for healthy and glowing skin. You can simply use a washcloth to gently scrub your skin. Try this process at least once a week.

Eyes and Lips

Protect your eyes by wearing sunglasses while stepping out in the sun. Protect your lips by applying a lip balm.

Feet

It is important to take care of your feet as well. Give yourself a manicure; remove the dead and dry skin cells with a scrub and moisturize them later.

Minimal Makeup

Go easy on make-up during summers; avoid anything heavy it’s most likely to melt off the minute you step out in the sweltering summer heat. When it comes to makeup during the summers, keep it simple as the skin needs to breathe.

Sunscreen

Summertime necessitates the use of sunscreen. It is important to safeguard yourself from tanning and skin burns. It also helps in protecting our skin from harmful UV rays. You should apply sunscreen at least twice a day. It is a must-have item, if you don’t have one; you should invest in sunscreen.

Stay Hydrated

It is extremely important to stay hydrated; especially during hot weather. Sweat causes us to lose a lot of our body fluids. Our bodies are severely harmed when the levels of body fluids drop. Staying hydrated also helps to flush out toxins from the body and feel refreshed. Carry a bottle of water everywhere you go, set reminders to drink water throughout the day so that you don’t forget to hydrate yourself!

Update your skincare products

It is very important to update your skincare products during summertime. During winters we need stronger creams to fight the cold and dry weather, but in the summer, we need hydrating products. Buy a moisturizer that is lightweight and non-greasy.

 Use natural remedies

Skincare home remedies are useful as they make your skin glow naturally without causing any harm. Applying Aloe Vera gel, Cucumber mask, Coconut oil, Honey mask, Lemon mask, Orange Peel mask, Turmeric paste are few remedies that soothe your skin during summer. 

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